Can God Heal a Broken Marriage

29 Oct

 

Understanding God’s Marriage Law’s

Understanding what God says about marriage and the covenant promise you made to Him, will help you understand why God will heal your broken marriage.

Your marriage is Utmost Important to God. Why? Because when you united in the matrimony of marriage, the two of you united into one with God. God created marriage in Genesis 2:23-24 “Then Adam said, This [creature] is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of a man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”. God created man then made woman to complement and help him. Marriage is God’s greatest blessing so that man not be alone. “Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.” (Genesis 2:18).


God joined the two of you together and brought it into fruition and said, “it is good” “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder (separate)”. When you married you were joined together (bound) for life, this is God’s law. When we seek to separate or divorce we are rebelling against God’s law.

“Beloved, man, no man, whether civil or religious, has the right to dissolve a marriage (only God can dissolve the marriage bond) on grounds other than what God has expressly said”! (Rev. 22: 18, 19). The only grounds for divorce, as it clearly says in the Matthew 19:9 and Matthew 5:31, 32 is fornication. God hates divorce, thus for no other reason than fornication will He allow divorce…not for indifferences, falling out of love, bitterness, anger, hate, a hardened heart. There are consequences for rebelling against God’s laws.


Most divorce arise from a hardened heart. A hardened heart is a unforgiving heart, and a unforgiving heart is a sinful heart, God does not honor sin of any kind, He hates sin, and whoever lives in sin is not of God, is not living for God, honoring God, walking with God, obeying Gods laws and commands, and is living in death, heading for the pit of hell. It is what it is, and there is no way around it.


People are incessantly attempting to side track or go around what God has said, marriage is no exception. It is the height of folly for man to believe he can arbitrarily annul or divorce what God has established.

According to Jesus, marriage is much more than an ‘agreement,’ even more than what we would call a ‘contract.’ Marriage is a God-made covenant.

When you married you made a solemn vow to God, a promise that cannot be broken, “I take thee to be my lawfully wedded (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; and I promise to be faithful to you until death parts us”. This vow was a covenant promise you made to God, and there is nowhere in the bible that allows us to annull or divorce that promise. God insists that you keep all of your solemn promises.

The Bible clearly states that it is better not to make solemn promises. To make a promise to God and not keep it is the work of a fool; such a thing leads to God’s anger and judgment. If you love God, you will keep all of your promises to Him.

“When you make a vow to God, do not delay in fulfilling it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow”. (Ecclesiastes 5:4-7).

Think back upon the day you married. You looked deep within your bride/groom’s eyes with a love to be cherished, then vowed to God that until death do you part, that you would remain in the bond of marriage, regardless of the circumstances. You promised that to God, and you believed what you said at the time when you said it. It seemed so simple. So much love was streaming from your heart, that you just knew nothing could separate that binding convenant.

But there are tribulations in the world, and since satan attacks love more than any other thing, (especially if you’re a Christian) your marriage went into turmoil and that promise you made to God was broken.

As was said before, God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and never intends for a couple to separate once they are married. Because separation, whether it is legal or physical, involves the division of a married couple, it displeases and hurts God. First Corinthians 7:10-11 says, “A wife must not leave her husband. But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else go back to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.”

Marriage vows should not be taken lightly, and separation should never be done casually or out of anger, because you’ll drift farther apart until you eventually divorce. This is not in God’s perfect plan for marriage, even if it has become acceptable in the world. “Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun–all the days of futility. For that is your portion in this life and in your work at which you toil under the sun.” (Ecclesiastes 9:9).

Now since you know how God feels about marriage, will give you a greater understanding on why He heals broken marriages, regardless of the circumstances. There is not a marriage He will not heal…no marriage He cannot restore.

A Marriage Disaster

8 months ago I met the man of my dreams. Someone I prayed to God for 15 years. I met him through my best friend after his wife had died. We had so much in common and fell madly in love, with the love of God. We married after knowing each other for only 4 months and it was obvious to everyone, even ourselves, that it was a marriage sent from heaven. The promise that God had given me, “God can do exceedingly, and abundantly, above and beyond more than we could ever ask, think or imagine”, had come true. I was in heavenly bliss. Yes, it was much more than I could have ever imagined.

Then the initial tribulation came 3 months later. I had a lifestyle that he agreed he could handle before we married. I went out 2 to 3 days a week for dinner and a couple of drinks, and had been doing so for the 15 years of my single life. When I met my husband it was so romantic at first, that I wanted the evenings never to end, so I had an extra drink seeking to keep the romance alive. He, on the other hand, became frightened and asked if I would slow down, but I on the other had did not want too.

Then one evening all hell broke loose, he packed up and went back to his home town, about 8 hours away. I called him seeking to reconcile, but to no avail. I could hear in his voice, that he had hardened his heart against me.

The next morning I awoke and was devistated. I could not believe this was happening. So I prayed, “please God, bring him back home,” but my prayer seemed to go unheard. The next days were a nightmare. I cried, then I was angry, then with prayer I would seem to be okay for awhile. Again I filled with pain, then became angry, and again I felt okay. This roller coaster ride went on it seems for eternity. He didn’t call which made me even more anxious and brow beaten, so I called him and asked him if he wanted a divorce. He asked me if I did and I said, “no, but if you do, I want to let you go free. Do you want one?”, and he said yes. Still I tried to reason with him, but again, no success.

I was panic stricken. He said he was done and nothing was going to change his mind. The evening he left I made a vow to God that I would change my lifestyle and never take a drink again, and my husband knew of that promise, but he had made his mind up, so I told him to go ahead and get the divorce. He went to an attorney to start proceedings.

A few days later I called my husband asked him to wait, that it had only been 2 weeks and I needed time. He said okay “instantly”. I asked him to forgive me, he said he did, and he put the divorce on hold. Understand this: Forgiveness does not necessarily mean that you take the person back. He did not want to go there, but he set me free, instead of holding me captive through unforgiveness.

Fighting For My Marriage

The first 10 years of my single life, before I married my former husband, I devoted my life to God. 10 to 20 hours a day prayed, read the bible and wrote. But the last 5 years I felt myself drifting away from God. God was in my life, and I talked to Him every morning and meditated on His word, but I quit reading the bible and going to church. I listened to sermons on TV, but I could feel the void. I did however, still have faith, not the powerful faith that I once had, but faith, and in all areas except for God healing a broken relationship. Until, I realized this was not just a relationship, this was a marriage created by my Almighty Father, a wonderful blessing that He sent from above. That turned my thinking around.

I made my mind up right then and there to seek out scriptures and what God actually said about marriage, and if He could really heal one…and by faith I knew there is nothing that is impossible for Him. Yes, He can heal marriages and even turn a hardened heart around. There is nothing He won’t do for those who love Him…He said it in His word. “The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].” James 5:16.

I took a stand on faith and decided to fight for my marriage and not let satan kill, steal and destroy every blessing God had given me. I knew this stand on faith would take endurance and patience and a devout closeness to God.

Steps For A Healed Marriage

You can cry all day long and pray, but that’s not going to move God to work on your situation. He does hear your cry and undertand your needs, but that’s not faith and faith is what it takes for God to move that mountain out of your life. The need we have in our time of grief is to get the person we love back into our lives. We love him and miss him (or her) and it hurts, Oh God does it hurt. But God wants us to love and miss Him more than we miss our mate. He wants us to lean on Him, give Him our grief and let Him take care of it for us. He wants your love, your plea’s and to get out of His way.

You see, God wants a relationship with you, an intimate relationship. He wants to be number 1# in your life. “Love God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your might.” God first, your spouse second. When we’re weeping and crying praying to get our mate back, we’re putting our needs before God. You’ll know who you love most by who you think about most. When you’re praying for God to restore your marriage in your dire need, are you thinking about God, or yourself?

One of the wonderful things about God is, when you give your heart to God, He will not hurt it, He will heal it and make you better. He will heal your pain so you can think right about your situation…so you can pray right, love right, be right. If you don’t let go and let God, you’ll be right back in the same situation a few months from now, as you are today. Therefore, you will need to give your heart and all your cares to God and cast down anything that goes against His Word. Don’t believe it, cast it down, give it to God and let Him take care of the situation for you.


Once you establish a strong relationship with God, pray then be patient. QUIT WORRYING. Life has dealt you a blow, but you cannot sit around and worry all the time. God will take all your burdens and carry them for you. Unless, of course you enjoy fretting over every little thing that comes your way?

 

You need healing, so ask the Holy Spirit to rid of your anger, your fear, your anxieties. Ask God to remove everything that is keeping you from restoring your marriage. Give God all your burdens and let Him take care of them for you. Once you’ve given Him your burdens, quit trying to take them back. Trust in Him. Have faith that He will take care of all your needs, your problems, your trials, your emotional roller coaster ride. He wants to help you…All you have to do is ask. Ask, then,

LEAVE IT ALONE


“Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord”. Don’t wake up in the morning and say, “Well,! I’m feeling much stronger now, I think I can handle it from here.” Why do you think you are feeling stronger now? It’s simple. You gave God your burdens and He is taking care of them for you. He will renew your strength and cover you in His peace. If you take your problems back, you will be right back where you started. Leave them with Him and forget about them. Just let Him do His job.

TALK TO HIM


He wants you to forget a lot of things. Forget what was making you crazy. Forget the worry and the fretting because you know He is in control. But don’t forget to talk to Him often. He loves you. He wants to hear your voice. He wants you to include him in everything in your life. He wants to hear you talk about your friends, your family and the things you like best. Prayer is simply having a conversation with Him. He wants to be your best friend.

HAVE FAITH


He sees a lot of things from up above that you cannot see from where you are. Have faith that He knows what He is doing. Trust Him. He will continue to care for you, watch over you, and meet your needs. You only have to trust Him. How hard can trust be?

Satan will say, “The marriage is over, he has hardened his heart against you. He is moving on with his life, and you are not included. You might as well get a divorce because you really messed up this time, and it’s too late now.”

But God says, “I can do exceedingly and abundantly above and beyond all that you can ask, think or imagine. Greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world, for I am in you. You can do all things through Christ because I will give you strength to overcome. Trust in Me, do not lean on your own understanding. I am smiling down on you right now. I CAN heal your marriage and will bring about a wonderful reconcilliation because I work all things together for the good. Be confident and patient and you will receive My favor in amazing ways. I am a BIG God, there is nothing to difficult for Me. You are blessed, you are victorious. I will open up doors that no man can shut. My blessings are running down on you now and they are overtaking you. I love you, I will take care of this situation for you. Stand strong in faith and trust Me, and get out of my way because I’m comming through, and I’m coming through in the Name of Jesus.”


Don’t listen to your emotions because they will lie to you. It doesn’t matter what it feels like or seems like at the time, God will heal your marriage, and He will heal it in His time, not yours. If your spouse has left you, don’t call him, don’t write him, don’t let him know how you feel. Let it go and let God. God will put the right person in his way to soften his heart and bring about a change. God will go into his heart and exchange it with His.

PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE


As Christians we are not to bow out at the sign of defeat. Instead we are to confront the enemy and put on the full armor of God. If your husband/wife has left you and has hardened his heart, he is in danger of the eternal fire because he has gone against God’s word “What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder (separate)” and has broken his convenant promise. He has been deceived by the enemy.

However, if a man is ignorant of God’s laws and lives by the ways of the world, then finds God and gives his life to Him, he will be forgiven for everything he has done up until that time, and will not be held accountable. His sins will be washed away, cleansed, and God will not remember them anymore. But a person who knows God and is not ignorant, there is no excuse for what he does in sin. He will be judged and it won’t be pleasent, you can be assured of that. If we stand in prayer for them, God will shake them from their sin and save them once again.


Just trust God to heal your marriage because marriage healing is in the bible, the promises of God, that are crystal clear. He does not want you divorced, He wants you and your mate married for a lifetime, one man married to one woman for life, until death. He hates divorce (Malichi), so much that He says the one who would do such a cruel thing to their spouse is cut off from Him. He will not listen to their pleas for help. However, when you ask God to restore your marriage, you can trust that He sent help for the restoration the moment you asked. His word says so and He is not a man that He could lie.

Pray for God to breakdown the wall your spouse has built and the hardness of heart against you. “Now I will tell you what I am going to do to my vineyard: I will take away its hedge, and it will be destroyed; I will break down its wall, and it will be trampled.”

Pray a hedge of thornbushes around your spouse, cover him daily with the Full Armor of God. Plead the Blood of Jesus over your covenant husband or wife and all that has your name on it, and tell satan to get out of his mind, out of his body, out of his thoughts, out of his heart, in the Name of Jesus, Amen.


Pray this prayer daily until your marriage has been restored, Prayer For A Healed Marriage 

 

Normal
0

 

I have put Husband or Him in the prayer. Replace it with Wife or her if need be.

Lord, deliver my husband from the power of darkness, and cause him to put on the armor of light. Help him in his daily walk to put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and Cause him to turn his eyes away from worthless things…to come to his senses, and escape the snare of the devil. Deliver him from immorality, strife, and envy, and draw him close to You, Father, with a true and contrite heart. Create in him a hunger and thirst for You and Your righteousness, and revive him in Your ways. I ask that You and fill him with the knowledge of Your will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; that he might have a walk worthy of You, Lord, fully pleasing You, being fruitful in every good work,and increasing in the knowledge of You, strengthened with all might, according to Your glorious power.

Bring him into the calling that You have predestined for him; help him to serve You with a loyal heart and with a willing mind, and instruct him in the way he should go. Let him a be doer of the Word and not a hearer only, meditating in Your Word day and night. Establish his heart, so he will never be shaken, and show him a way of escape with every temptation. Let him owe no man anything except his love. A love that is in deed and truth, not just in word and speech. Let him be avolunteer serving You in the time of Your power. Seeking first Your kingdom so that he will reap abundant blessings.

I pray that he will honor You with his possessions and with the firstfruits of his increase; Praising the Lord with his whole heart in the assembly of the upright and in the congregation, walking humbly with You Lord, being determined to act justly, loving mercy and righteousness, being gracious and full of compassion.


PUT ON THE ARMOUR OF GOD so you can defeat the enemy demon.

Always Remember, THERE IS NOT A MARRIAGE God cannot heal….no marriage he cannot restore. Stamp that in your heart. All it takes is to believe what God said and have faith in His word. Nothing is too difficult for God. You need to persevere and believe Him. Take God at his word. God longs to restore marriages. but more than that he longs for you to KNOW HIM intimately Utmost! God wants a relationship with you. He wants you to receive His love and love Him in return. He wants you to receive His peace and joy so you can be a light to let others know what they can find in JESUS. Never give up believing God for your marriage healing. God is able and very willing to restore your marriage, because the day you said your vows, you covered it with His blood.

Read the scriptures on marriage, faith, and the Promises of God, so you will know what He can do for you in every area of your life. You will need to be healed before God will bring your loved one back into your life, because healed people heal people, hurting people hurt people. Read and meditate on God’s Recipe Via His Precious Promises On Healing

Read my free ebook Faith – Your Access To Success, because God Promises That He Will Do Mighty Things Through Your Faith. Renew your mind daily with these Scriptural Affirmations, and build on your faith by understanding and knowing The Healing Powers Of Jesus.

I urge you to go to Rejoice Marriage Ministeries and listen to their 5 minuet programs on God Heals Hurting Marriages and Fight For Your Marriage. Rejoice Marriage Ministries shares the good news that there is a better answer than divorce: Hear the good news that God Heals Hurting Marriages. They will show you how to Fight For Your Marriage.

How badly do you want your marriage restored? If you want it badly enough, with God you will get it. But it will take patience, faith, consistancy and time.

Has my marriage been restored? He said “Your Marriage Has Been Restored,” so I know it’s on its way. “Faith calls things that be not as thou they were.” Thank you Great and Gracious God, You are my Healer, My Comforter, My Protector, My Restorer, My Everything. Hallallujah!!! I glorify Your Name, You my Awesome God, the lover of my soul. I know that there is nothing you won’t do for me because I love you so.

Wives must submit to their husbands!

20 Aug

Let me present this interesting article I found in the internet, I am searching and studying why a woman has to submit to her husband and I have learned a lot.  I want to submit to my husband so the favor of the Lord is with me.

the Lord has spoken to me about the rol I have in marriage, I am a little stubborn and I think I have control over my husband and of his life.  I have been miserable for thinking that because I have to play the rol that the Lord made me to to play.  I am learning and hope you learn too.

Let us return to the Lord´s plan for family, for our family.  Let us be what He wants us to be!!!

Wives must submit to their husbands!

The submission of a wife is a management position, not slavery!The wife must subject herself to her husband by placing him in the position of leadership a husband cannot force his wife into subjection, she controls this.

Definition of Subjection/submission: Greek “hupotasso” a military term, to rank under (Vine)

Few subjects create emotional stirs like that of a wife being subject to her husband. Yet the Bible is crystal clear. For some women, truly accepting this one Bible teaching may very well be the ultimate test of their faith in God. This subject is greatly misunderstood by the worldly and Christian alike. Many misconceptions as to what Bible subjection really means for the wife exist. It is usually interpreted to be equivalent to slavery. Yet when you compare the worlds view of the wife’s subjection to her husband to the Bible’s instructions for the literal master-slave relationship, the latter would be bliss!

We need to understand what the Bible means by subjection rather than the world’s “street talk”. Then God will keep the rains from leaking into our homes!

A wife’s submission to her husbands does not make her inferior or unequal!

The husband treats his wife as an equal, the wife treats the husband as a higher rank.

 A wife’s submission to her husbands does not make her inferior or unequal!

  1. Husbands and wives are absolutely equal before God, even when a wife submits to her husband.
  2. To suggest that women are inferior to men because they submit denies the equality of the Trinity doctrine. Jesus and the Father are both uncreated God, yet Jesus submits to the Father. Jesus is not less God than the Father because He submits to the Father?
  3. A husband must submit to his employer? Is the boss categorically superior to an employee? Never! They are equal in their rights as men, but one is head and the other is subordinate.
  4. Some suggest that a wife submitting to husband makes her a second class human, or inferior to men. This is wrong. Husbands and wives share equal rights a humans. The husband is not “higher” than the wife because she must submit to him!
  5. Scripture teaches that the husband must treat his wife as an equal, even though he rules over her and she submits.
  6. The husband treats his wife as an equal, the wife treats the husband as a higher rank.

Why won’t my children submit to me and respect me?

Fact: Children treat their mother, the way the mother treats her husband.Cure: “but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. ” 1 Peter 3:4

“the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:33

  1. Mothers complaint: The children don’t respect me! Children imitate the way their mothers respect their husband. Its likely your own fault the children don’t respect you. Children respect the mother the way the mother respects her husband.
  2. A wife should never raise her voice and yell her husband, even when he is wrong: 1 Peter 3:4 A wife must never address her husbands above a “quiet, respectful, submissive, whisper”, at any time. If you do this, your children will imitate this and address you, their head in exactly the same way.
  3. Children respect the mother the way the mother respects her husband. Want your children to respect your headship over them? Then respect your husband’s headship over you!
  4. If your children are yelling at you, perhaps they learned this from you yelling at their father! Children know he is head, even if you won’t let him be such. You have trained them by your example, to disrespect headship. Your insubordination to your husband has trained your own children to treat you the same way!
  5. While it is true that the husband can contribute to the problem by not disciplining the children when they disrespect their mother, the problem usually is the mother’s fault. You see, even if the father does a perfect job of disciplining the children for talking back to their mother, the children will still “trash” the mother, if they see her “trashing” her husband.
  6. Children learn submission from the mother, not the father. Children learn headship from the father, not the mother. Therefore the key point for children, who must first learn to submit, is to imitate the submission style of the mother to her husband. If she shows an example of insubordination to her head, then the children learn this from their mother and treat her the same way. After all, the children think that is the normal way you submit to authority. They are merely doing what the mother taught them.
  7. The Bible is clear:
    “but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. ” 1 Peter 3:4
    “the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:33

Mothers complaint: The children don’t respect me! Children imitate the way their mothers respect their husband. Its likely your own fault the children don’t respect you. Children respect the mother the way the mother respects her husband.

 

 

How one wife finally put her husbands in his place!!!

A Sunday school teacher went over to visit one of her new pupils named Katrine, one summer’s afternoon. The family had immigrated only five years earlier from the “home country”. The mother was warm and friendly, even her house exuded hospitality. What was most impressive though was the woman’s constant references to her husband. Whenever there was a lull in the conversation a little 4 year old boy would ask, “Is it almost time for papa to come home?” Later, the other children came in from school, greeted me politely and went to their chores. The oldest daughter said, “I’m going to start some of Papa’s favorite muffins for supper,” as she headed for the kitchen. As the teacher got up to leave, Katrine asked, “Can’t you wait a small moment and meet papa?” By this time the teacher was very curious about this remarkable man who commanded such love and respect from all his family.

The shock of meeting Papa was almost too much for the teacher. Instead of a well-dressed man of brilliant speech, a small man, twisting nervously at his mustache and talking in the broken accent of his native tongue, greeted “the teacher of his “leetle Katrina.” For some time the teacher pondered the mystery of this man’s place in his home. Suddenly it dawned on her. It’s not who or what the father is personally, but the mother’s attitude toward him that makes all the difference. A husband can only take their proper place at the head of the house when wives respect and honor their wishes, thereby giving our children the desire to do likewise.

Children respect the mother the way the mother respects her husband. Want your children to respect your headship over them? Then respect your husband’s headship over you!

“Do It Yourself husband!”

In Gen 18:6 Abraham said to Sarah, “Make ready quickly, three measures of fine meal, knead it and make cakes.” Can you imagine Sarah answering, “Do it yourself”? This attitude would have been out of character for her because “Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord.” 1 Pet 3:6 A wife’s big test of faith is if she will submit to her husband when he is unreasonable and selfish, or when she knows she is being wrongs by his attitude. Jesus never asks us to do anything He has not already done Himself! Bible subjection never implies inferiority but rather strength!

If you need someone to talk to or need prayer, write me at prayingformarriages@live.com

How to respect your husband: 7 hints

17 Aug

this is an article that I really like.  Is a topic that is difficult for us women, but will really help to restore our marriage.  Read it before you judge, then meditate.  Is this right? Is this going to save my marriage?  just let God do his part and you do yours.

Blessings.

How to Respect Your Husband: 7 Helpful Hints

by Pamela Rose Williams

And let the wife see that she respects her husband.  That’s what Paul wrote in the second half of Ephesians 5:33. Respect is something that I believe has diminished throughout the years. So many marriages begin well and end poorly because men and women are not properly trained in how to treat one another. God has specific roles for the husband and the wife and when we stay within those roles we have happy marriages and good family lives.  Respect is something that should be mutual between all members of the family, but for this article I want to give some helpful hints for wives on how to respect their husbands. (For a related article read “How to Love Your Wife: 7 Helpful Tips”)

Respect His Leadership 

http://cdn2.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/husband-300x199.jpg

“It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

God gave you your husband as the leader in your home.  This means that he is not only the Spiritual leader; he is the one who make decisions.  Women are ill-equipped to make large decisions; we are far too emotional for that big responsibility. Your part in the decision process could be to help him be the leader by providing him with information that will aid in decision-making. And remember that just because you provided information, this does not mean that your husband will consider that information.  He chooses what to use in the decision process; a wise husband will ask for his wife’s advice.  When he chooses not to consider your information and/or advice let him take responsibility for the decision, be it good or bad.  Never, ever say “I told you so” or words to that effect when a decision has gone bad.  When he makes good decisions thank him for taking that burden. Remember to avoid getting leadership and advice from other males in your life such as your pastor, friend or even your brother. Take a look at what the Bible says about your husband’s role as leader and head of the wife:

1 Corinthians 11:3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. 

Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

Respect His Provision 

This is a Biblical principle that has been overlooked in our modern world.  In the day of the two-income family, we have come to depend upon the wife’s income to provide for the needs of the family. This ought not to be. Don’t misunderstand; I realize that sometimes it is necessary for a woman to work outside of the home, in the case where the husband is physically unable.  However, when your husband is able to provide for the family – let him do it! Here is the Biblical standard on the husband as the provider: 

Genesis 3:17-20 And to Adam he said, ”Because you have listened to the voice of your wife  and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, ’You shall not eat of it,’ cursed is the ground because of you;  in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life; thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you; and you shall eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return.”

1 Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Respect His Maleness 

Accept the fact that God made you the weaker vessel. This is one of those things that have taken me many years to do.  I am a strong willed woman and many times I have tried to do things that I needed not to do. I now am thankful that my husband carries the heavy packages and opens the doors for me. He is being what God has made him to be, my protector – not only for safely sake but for my own health and well-being. You were created for him, as his helper. Let your husband be the strong one and when he is, praise him for it and thank God for him. Let him open that pickle jar; even if you loosened it for him. Here are some Bible verses for this hint:

Genesis 2:18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

1 Corinthians 11:9 Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.

1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

Respect as an Attitude

There are times when the husband is not respectful to the wife. This does not give you license to be disrespectful. You cannot control his actions, but you can control your reactions. You see, respect is not only seen in your actions (as a verb) but it is also seen in your attitude (as a noun). When you show an attitude of respect toward your husband he will think twice about the way that he is treating you. Love him, even when he is unlovely. Serve him, even when he seems not to appreciate your service. Listen to him, even when you may not understand what he is talking about. Be attentive to his physical needs, even when you are tired.  God will bless you and your marriage when you remember to have a respectful attitude.  Bible guidelines for this are:

Romans 12:21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Philippians 2:3-4 (KJV) Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

Philippians 4:13 (KJV) I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. 

1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives

Respect His Reputation 

Don’t air your dirty laundry. When you are in the company of others you should never be saying things that tear your husband down. Instead you should be saying only good about him. Brag on him! Be faithful to him in thought, word and deed. This includes what you say and do in front of the children. Teach them to respect their Daddy, he is their protector too and they should see him as a hero. The Bible is loaded with this concept, here are a few verses:

Proverbs 12:7 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 31:11-12 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. 

Romans 14:19 Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.

Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. 

Respect His Home 

Make your house a home, no matter what the living circumstance. Make it comfortable and clean. Make the bed. Clean up the dirty dishes. Keep up with the laundry. Your husband works hard and he deserves a cozy home after a hard day. Get up before your husband and the children – set the tone for the day.  When you have things in order your day will run smoother for your entire household. Teach the children to clean up after themselves and how to do daily and weekly chores. All this should be done without grumbling or complaining.

Proverbs 14:1 The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.

Proverbs 31:15 She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. 

Proverbs 31:27 she looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.

Philippians 2:14 Do all things without grumbling or questioning 

Titus 2:4-5 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

Respect Yourself; Work on Being The Best Wife 

Being a wife doesn’t just happen. I am thankful that many years ago I had a group of very godly wives praying for me when I was a career-bound wife and mom. I believe to this day that they “prayed” me home! They were not perfect women, nor am I. The thing that I want to encourage you in is that there are other women out there that have been where you are. They are the women who successfully manage a home and may even have a bushel of children that they are raising as well. Learn from them. Ask them how they do it. See if there is a lady’s Bible study group in your church that you can join. Get some Christian girlfriends if you haven’t already done that.  Above all, get daily in the Word.  Pull your resources together so that you are able to have an organized time with the Lord each day. Personal Spiritual growth is essential for your relationship with God and ultimately with your husband. Redeem the time, spend time doing things that you know will please the Lord.

Romans 12:2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Ephesians 5:15-16 (KJV) See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.

Colossians 4:5 (KJV) Walk in wisdom toward them that are without, redeeming the time.

2 Timothy 2:15 (KJV) Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.

Titus 2:3-5 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

 

10 Bible reasons why a wife must submit to her husband regardless of cullture

17 Aug

Hi, this is my new blog and in this blog we will discuss topics concerning marriage.

Today we hear at marriage statistics, they are amazing.  If you analyze them they have something in common, the reason for the people trying to save their relationship is crossing the boundries of each others role in marriage.  One of the roles in a marriage for a woman is submitting to her husband.

We have lost that respect to God´s Word, to His choice for us women.

We have to surrender our will to our creator and make our marriage work.  If we surrender that part of our existence all will function as he planned.  I know you will say it is very difficult and I am a free woman, it´s my life.

Just read this article I found, pray to your heavenly father, if you don´t know that father later I will tell you how to do it.

This article was taken from http://www.bible.ca/marriage/submission-independent-of-culture.htm

Maybe this is what you have been looking for, read it, meditate, and

10 Bible reasons why a wife must submit to her husband regardless of culture

Culture has never been a factor as to whether a woman must submit to her husband in the Bible. Modern times of woman’s liberation are irrelevant. God gives us His reasons why women must submit to her husband.

10 Bible reasons why a wife must submit to her husband regardless of culture:

  1. Creation order: Man was created first, woman second. “For it was Adam who was first createdand then Eve. ” 1 Timothy 2:13
  2. Creation origin: Man and all creation was created by God directly out of dust, whereas woman was created through the man’s rib. “Then the Lord God formed man of dust from the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being. ” Genesis 2:7 Woman is the only creature not made from dust. Woman derives her origin from Man. “The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. ” Genesis 2:22 “For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man” 1 Corinthians 11:8
  3. Creation purpose: Woman created for man: “for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake.” 1 Corinthians 11:9
  4. Man named woman: Adam named the animals and was to rule over them. “Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name. ” Genesis 2:19 “rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Genesis 1:28 When Eve was brought to Adam, he named her, showing he was to rule over woman as well. “The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”” Genesis 2:23
  5. Delegation principle: God commanded directly to Adam alone. The prohibition to not eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil, was made directly by God to Adam. Adam, in turn relayed what God said to Eve. Eve had not yet been created when God told Adam about the forbidden tree. Eve never actually heard God say this direct, but had to trust Adam’s word on the matter. “The Lord God commanded the man, saying, “From any tree of the garden you may eat freely; but from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat from it you will surely die.” Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”” Genesis 2:16-18
  6. Woman sinned first: The devil tempted Eve and she, not the man, was first deceived. Because of this, man put Eve under the headship of Adam. “And it wasnot Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. ” 1 Timothy 2:14; “Now the serpent was more crafty than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, “Indeed, has God said, ‘You shall not eat from any tree of the garden’?”” Genesis 3:1
  7. God rebuked Adam first after they ate the forbidden fruit: Although Eve was the logical person for God to rebuke first, God went to Adam, showing that God considered Adam the “head of the family” for both. “Then the Lord God called to the man, and said to him, “Where are you?” ” Genesis 3:9
  8. Man is the glory of God, woman is the glory of man: “For a man is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man.” 1 Corinthians 11:7
  9. Paul pointed Christians to the Mosaic Law that was 1500 earlier and a different culture: 1 Cor.14:34
  10. Peter pointed Christians to Sarah, 2000 years earlier and a very different culture: 1 Pet. 3:5-6.

Sometimes we, women, think that is our right to do what we want or think, but we are wrong.  If you read the Bible, we are here in this earth to serve and respect our husband. We can do many things, but with his support and guidance.

Sometimes we have a little bit of problem with this topic, but god can help us and let us be what He wants us to be.

God bless your life.

If you need prayer of a word of encouragement, please write to prayingformarriages@live.com

Steve Rudd

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.